Learning to be an ally


I’m not sure what’s involved in being an LGBTQIA+ ally.  I’m trying to figure it out.  I have in the past not been one, but then my oldest came out (trans/non-binary).

Yesterday after 4 years of knowing they exist I finally joinedMjoined Dragons.  I guess I didn’t feel I needed them.  Yesterday I realized maybe there’s someone out there who needs me.

It took me a few years to find my feet in 12 step recovery too.  I’m not sure how to work in groups.  Which is funny since I’m a meta middle child.  Fifth of ten my parents had.  I guess I’m not good at finding my place where it isn’t prescribed for me.

I joined Mormons Building Bridges not too long ago.  ITI learned oftof themathem through suicide advocacy. I liked the slogan “because of our religion, not in spite of it”.  Then there was a transition due to an attempt to rebrand it Saints Building Bridges, and a couple people left MBBb a lot of people joined both.

The schism was about the tone at MBB and whether people felt able to be honest about the pain the church has caused them, vs. the group being safe for new allies looking for support.  I am comfortable with discomfort, so for myself I stayed at MBB, but then I realized there is a need for outreach to families figuring out allyship.  And I thought if I were going to join Emmaus I should finally join Mama Dragons.

So I guess maybe I’m a Journeyman ally now.  But still not sure what I’m doing.  I just love my kids and need them to know that, no matter what.

P.S.e rgarding Elder Oaks thoughts on love and righteousness, I think Doc &Cov 121 applies:. 43 Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;

44 That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death.

I know Oaks always tries to include love, but do you decide if you’ve shown enough love, or does the reproved?

Image: Dorothea Lange, “migrant mother”

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